There are few things in life that are quite as fulfilling as being a parent. Jobs, homes, cars and even relationships may come and go but the bond that one feels with a child simply can not be compared to anything else that can be experienced in this world. To know that this person is quite literally a part of you creates a connection that has to be experienced to be believed.
If you are having any sort of guilt or feeling that you are being selfish for wanting to have a child of your own in spite of any infertility issues that you and your partner might be going through, I assure you that it will be worth any trial that you might have to go through. Believe me…once you hold your baby for the first time any sort of anguish or heartache that you are experiencing right now will be forgotten and you will remember this…and you will say to yourself that they were worth anything that you had to go through.
You should know that there may be tougher times ahead…times when you feel genuine failure or feel that you are being persecuted by God or something. Nothing could be further from the truth. But there will almost certainly be a day when you and your partner will feel the relief in getting a positive test result from a pregnancy test and in a moment your life will change forever.
I know the anguish of infertility and I also know the joy of parenthood. I understand where you are coming from and I am actually excited for you because I know what lies in store for you down the road when you do actually become a parent.
Although my wife and I went through about a year of trying I will tell you that we overcame some of the same obstacles that you are probably facing yourself. Both my wife and I were approaching 40 years of age. My wife had PCOS, a tilted cervix and endomitriosis, in addition to other health issues that may or may not have been contributing to the infertility. (She has since had a hysterectomy) Yes, I did my part by eating healthy (I hate vegetables!) and switching over to boxers for the better part of a year. But we are glad to say that she gave birth to a very healthy baby boy and we couldn’t be happier.
The best advice that we could find can be found within the pages of Lisa Olson’s book, “Pregnancy Miracle”. We highly recommend it and it is written by a mother that went through a trial that I hope you never have to go through…14 years of her person research goes into this book and every conceivable option is covered.
What we liked so much about it is that Lisa has been in the same position that you are currently in. She isn’t some fertility specialist that has a bunch of book knowledge. Although her knowledge might as well be compared to what many fertility specialists go through to obtain a degree…but this is her passion and her life’s work.
Do the techniques in Pregnancy Miracle work? Well, before publishing her book Lisa wanted to make sure that the methods in her book would work for women other than herself, since she did indeed use these same methods and successfully become pregnant…twice! So she set up a test group and offered her book to women that were suffering from infertility problems. Her methods and thus her book were an overwhelming success with the vast majority of women who followed her plan becoming pregnant within three months….many within two months!
So try not to become disheartened. Success for you can be right around the corner. Keep your eye on the prize and know in your heart that you will indeed hear the pitter patter of little feet around your house the way that we always dreamed…and now do these days! We can hardly remember what life was like without our son as a part of it any more…and some day the same will be true for you.
Davina M –
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